Talk:Finn Collins/@comment-76.17.103.248-20150704182642/@comment-76.17.103.248-20150705150120

I just read ChancelorofLight's comment, but I didn't really understand that first paragraph. I think maybe I wasn't understood either. Personally, I've had more than one platonic relationship with a guy. That kind of thing doesn't have anything to do with what I was saying.

I just want to add, that the writers on this show are exploring human nature and the human condition. We watch how different people behave in adverse circumstances. How some are strong and some are weak. How we try but sometimes fail to maintain our moral integrity admit the trials of life. How we sometimes give into our baser instincts. How we come to recognize our mistakes and seek redemption. How we can bring out the best or the worst in each other. Hiow we need each other. How we can become damaged from our environment or adverse experiences. These people are not black or white, good or bad. They're all different shades of gray. We should see ourselves in these people. We should try to understand them. We can hate what they do without hating them because they're just human. Above all, we should be slow to judge what they deserve because none of us are innocent.

One more thing, I've been thinking about why Finn could be with Clarke after he thought Raven was going to die if she wasn't dead already. When he told Clarke he loved her, he quickly changed it to say, "I'm IN love with you." That's how he continued to say it. He didn't tell Raven that he was IN love with her. He said that he loved her. Then Raven said "Not the way I want to be loved. Not the way you love Clarke." There's the difference.

Finn and Raven had grown up together. They were probably childhood sweethearts. They both had probably never been with anyone else. But they grew up. For Finn, in spite of their still having sex, he probably didn't realize that he wasn't IN love with her until he met Clarke. Once Raven accepted that difference, they became more like family. Clarke couldn't be with someone else after Finn died because she was IN love with him. I'm not seeking an argument here. You may agree or disagree. I'm just throwing it out there as something to consider.