Board Thread:General Discussion/@comment-13022928-20180109024620/@comment-108.31.158.50-20180111023107

Hey thanks for responding this has been an interesting conversation!

So I would totally agree with you, if not for the trope that makes lgbt characters so kill offable, and lgbt people being a discriminated minority.

Here this says it better: "According to GLAAD's analysis, '25 lesbian and bisexual female-identifying characters have died on scripted broadcast and cable television and streaming series since the beginning of 2016... Most of these deaths served no other purpose than to further the narrative of a more central (and often straight, cisgender) character. When there are so few lesbian and bisexual women on television, the decision to kill these characters in droves sends a toxic message about the worth of queer female stories,' GLAAD President & CEO Sarah Kate Ellis was quoted saying in the report. 'When the most repeated ending for a queer woman is violent death, producers must do better to question the reason for a character’s demise and what they are really communicating to the audience,' Ellis added."

So I guess the difference with being hispanic and LGBT is that you see hispanic people growing up, like your parents, your family members, you see it growing up. But when you're gay (I'm using it as a blanket term because I'm tireddddd) you don't have that. A lot of people are luckily raised in accepting families but I didn't know it was a thing until I was ten, and then all it knew was that two women can get married. I didn't even know the couple that well to be honest. And my family was so accepting that I when I got the talk, even though I wasn't out to my family, they covered all sexualities and stuff just in case. So even with a super accepting family, I never saw gay people. I never heard them talk or was around them, and my first few relationships failed because I had no idea what a gay relationship looked like. But when you're hispanic you probably at least know one healthy couple, or at least happy healthy person. (I dunno your life tho man). I didn't even meet another out gay person until I had been out for a year to my entire school. But like, I was lucky with my family, with my lesbian cousin who came out first. I was so lucky. Some people grow up in worlds where they don't even know you CAN be gay, and then when they start to realize they are all they see on TV are lesbians dying horrible deaths. When I first started figuring myself out I devoured every piece of gay media I found, I watched youtubers, I watched movies and TV shows. Everything I've learned about being in a happy healthy lesbian relationship I've taught myself. I've had to. TV shows, books and movies are a lot of people's only way to learn that stuff, and if the representation is bad we can't fall back on our parents, or our relatives, or usually anyone, we just have to figure it out on our own and get heartbroken a lot.

I too am disabled, so I can definitely recognize the issues with that type of representation too, and a lot of the same issues are just as apparent. Disabled people deserve better representation too, and I guess imagine if you were watching the good doctor when you were a kid just starting out school. Would it have made you felt better about your disability and less alone? I remember before I was diagnosed I felt like the dumbest kid in the world, I had no idea why I couldn't just understand and do stuff like everyone else. Man if we could go back to middle school am I right?

So I in no way am trying to compare our different experiences, (white) gay people and (straight) hispanic people have very different struggles and I appreciate you empathizing and I hope you know I was just clarifying. Thank you for this discussion and sharing so much with me this has been really fascinating and I've enjoyed talking about this with you. Thanks again :)))))

Where the quote was from

All those 193 who've died

Another harmful lgbt trope the 100 is guilty of perpetrating