Talk:Finn Collins/@comment-76.17.103.248-20150704182642/@comment-26247132-20150705002433

"But why do these other people not take into account that Finn didn't act on his attraction until AFTER he thought that everyone on the Ark was going to die and that he'd never see Raven again?"

Raven says it perfectly, "he could've waited more than 10 days." If you really love someone as much as Finn claimed to have loved Raven, then when you think they're dead, you do what Clarke did with Lexa; you tell them you're not ready. It's about showing respect for the dead and for your previous relationship and about giving yourself time to grieve and time to sort out your emotions.

As to why Bellamy elicits more "forgiveness" for his actions, it's not the act, but the person's response. Bellamy clearly shows remorse and has spent the last season and a half seeking redemption. With Finn, I don't remember him apologizing to either Raven or Clarke for his actions (although I could be mistaken because I usually fast-forward through his scenes). Even if he did apologize, his excuse for everything continued to be that it was because he's in love with Clarke. Being in love with someone is no more of an excuse for reprehensible behavior than when Bellamy used his sister as an excuse to do things. Finn also wasn't even the one to tell Raven and Clarke about each other; they both had to find out on their own which seems particularly deceitful and emotionally manipulative (even if it wasn't purposeful). From a psychological standpoint, another reason might simply be that everyone knows a Cheater and Finn becomes that embodiment for them, his actions tainting his whole character as untrustworthy and disrespectful.