Board Thread:The 100 - Discussion/@comment-24.99.67.19-20140818170707/@comment-24.99.67.19-20140820215134

The thing about Finn is we don't know much about his background at all. It's interesting that when all the other kids were taking turns talking to their parents, we never saw Finn go in. Not only did he not mention Raven to Clarke, he also never talked about his parents. All we know so far is that he and Raven have known each other their whole lives. He pretty much saved her life by sharing his food rations with her. We know that he cares about her, but he's not really IN-love with her.

Now I'm not arguing that it was okay for Finn not to tell Clarke about Raven. When I watch that scene in which Raven kisses Finn in front of Clarke, I can imagine how devastated she must have felt. I'm just saying that I can see why he didn't. Before that night, there wasn't any real reason to tell her. They were only just getting to know each other. Finn hadn't made any romantic advances toward her at all. He was attracted to her, but they had only known each other a few days. Nothing had happened. With so much else going on, I doubt if he even had time to examine how strong his feelings were.

When Finn slept with Clarke, he was in despair. He was feeling helpless in the face of a huge challenge for survival. Clarke offered him comfort and an assurance that he was not alone in this. She was there for him. It was a spontaneous moment born out of their need for each other in the face of extreme odds. But Finn wasn't just using Clarke. He had real feelings for her, and he didn't want to throw away what they had started.

For Finn, this budding relationship wasn't based on a lie. He truly believed that everyone on the ark, including Raven, were going to die. So I just think you're being a little too hard on him. I totally get how hurtful this must have been for Clarke, and I sympathize with her, too. But Finn wasn't some player, who went around using women. He truly loves Clarke. He tried to talk to her, but she just kept blowing him off. She couldn't deal with it because of whatever past experiences. But she can't let go of her feelings for him, either. So for her own sake, she needs to let go of the past and deal with her fear. If she keeps blocking out everyone who really cares about her, she's going to end up alone and miserable. People make mistakes. If they didn't intend to hurt you, and you care about them, you need to give them another chance. I don't know how she was going to finish that sentence, "I just can't. . ." But later she told Finn that she couldn't lose him again. I hope that means she's finally coming back to him.

BTW, referring to our previous discussion, if Anya only went to the bridge to kill Clarke and Finn, she could have done that long before Jasper spotted the grounders in the trees. Anya was asking Clarke about what assurances she could give her that the other members of the ark would abide by the rules they set. They were beginning to make some progress when all hell broke loose. Poor Finn. All his efforts wasted.