Board Thread:The 100 - Discussion/@comment-24.99.67.19-20140818170707/@comment-25112275-20140818181213

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Clarke has issues trusting and forgiving people because every person she’s ever trusted has hurt her in some way. Her mother got her father killed. Wells lied to her to protect her. Finn hurt her by not telling her about Raven. Finn used Clarke. There is no justification for using someone the way he did. He regardless if he loves her or not. Finn used Clarke. No woman wants to be used or be “the other woman”. Sure there are some that thrive off this lifestyle but that’s not Clarke.

If Finn did cared for both Raven and Clarke he would have never made the impulsive decision to hurt both of them. Yes he didn’t do it on purpose but he still did it. Now he needs to live with the consequences of his actions.

Clarke has every right to feel the way she does. Finn hurt her. There is no easy way or right way to forgive someone who hurts you. Many times people never forgive someone for hurting them. But you can see in We Are Grounders (Part 2) that she is trying to forgive him. Clarke still cares for Finn. However she doesn’t have to be in a relationship with him to care about him.

Regardless of the wristbands being fried Finn should have told Clarke about Raven and LONG before the two of them slept together. If Clarke had known she would have never slept with him and she would have understood. She would have still been friends with Finn and possibly more after he’d broken up with Raven. But because FINN broke her trust and didn’t tell her the truth, she can’t trust him.

“Finn was simply exploring this new attraction to Clark.” ? Let me ask you a question. Would you want your boyfriend or girlfriend to simply be “exploring a new attraction to a new man or woman?” I certainly wouldn’t and I certainly wouldn’t want to be that woman. How would you feel if you were that other woman? Personally I’d feel used. I would never trust the person again, nor would I ever see them again. But that’s me. Every person is different. Some will choose to take a cheater back some won’t. Clarke is a person that so far is not interested in taking him back.

Just because they could all die at any moment is no justification to love a man who hurt you. Just because someone loves you doesn’t mean you love them the same. It is possible to love someone, but not be in love with someone. Clarke still cares for Finn, that much is true, but she may not be in love with him anymore.

Clarke chose to let go of what they had because of how he treated the situation. Raven was in denial. She was in love with this man for a very long time. He was her only family while on the Ark. He was her rock. When Raven found out about his infidelity she chose to ignore it. She tried to save the relationship they had while on the Ark. However, Raven eventually learns that they are not on the Ark. Things won’t be the way they were and does break it off with him, because he doesn’t love her the way she should be loved.

Personally, I think Clarke’s actions are brave. She doesn’t need a man right now. The most important thing in their world right now is surviving. Love can wait.

Jason has stated this isn’t a show isn’t a typical CW drama. This is a show about survival and that is the main focus, love is just the icing on the cake. I wouldn’t be surprised if Clarke is not in a relationship for a long while. However, I wouldn’t mind maybe seeing Finn and Clarke try to work things out. I’d like to see the two become friends again and then maybe something more. Right now Finn does not have Clarke’s trust. Without trust a romantic relationship is doomed.