Board Thread:Character Discussion/@comment-11565898-20170503181911/@comment-11565898-20170504225301

So first, love is love. It doesn't have a time stamp. So the insituation that because Jasper didn't know Maya as long as Raven knew Finn, Octavia knew Lincoln, or Clarke knew Lexa somehow demeans his affection for Maya seems off to me. However that is my opinion.

Also, let us take in to account that Jasper was betrayed by his friends in Mount Weather. That mixed in with the blame that he holds for himself because he thought he could save those in the Mountain is what really made his grief all the more intense.

Everyone experiences grief differently.

Raven only accepted that she was in pain when Becca told her she was dying. She punched Clarke after Finn died and tried to sacrifice Murphy before that.

Octavia was killing anyone she thought deserved to die. She punched Lincoln when he wouldn't talk to her about his reaper days and beat Bellamy when Lincoln died.

Clarke continues to make decisions for people without their input. She let a bomb drop on not only the Grounders, but some of her people as well. She left for three months because she couldn't deal with what she had done in Mount Weather.

Jasper is the only one who actually deals with his emotions when he feels them. He cries when he is sad, screams when he is angry and smiles when he is happy.

(*BTW, I am not shaming any characters for their ways of grieving. I just wanted to point out to you the different ways in which they express their grief*)

2nd, Raven's spacewalk is her accepting her death. This something that Jasper has advocated all of Season Four. That isn't making anything "harder", it is making a choice; something that Clarke doesn't accept. Do Not Resusicitate is a choice. It may seem like giving up to you, but I don't think that's what it is in this situation.

For me, this is not suicide. For me, Jasper, Raven, Harper, and Riley's choice is similar to a chemo patient being told that they have a less than 10 percent chance of survival even with chemotherapy.

Now, it may not be your choice because you may be like Clarke who is someone willing to go through the chemotherapy even with your odds so low. However, Jasper is on the opposite side. He would rather enjoy his short life than extend his days being unhappy. Neither choice is right or wrong. It is simply a choice that people have to make for themselves.

3rd, Jasper calls out Clarke and Bellamy when they need calling out. However, I understand what you are saying when you talk about how he treats Clarke and Bellamy differently. I think the best explanation for that is in the DNR episode when Bellamy told Jaha to leave the DNR party alone.

The key difference between Bellamy and Clarke(among their many differences) is that Bellamy listens while Clarke does what she thinks is "best" for her people. Clarke lacks faith in her people which is evidenced in many of her decisions. I don't fault her this because her leadership had gotten Skaikru out many sticky situations. However, what she didn't like about Jaha's leadership is what she is currently doing which is something that I don't agree with either.