Talk:Finn Collins/@comment-26832353-20150807153259/@comment-76.17.103.248-20150809182920

All the characters have flaws because they're all human. Finn was no different. The two flaws that got Finn in the most trouble were his impulsiveness, and his inability to control his emotions. First, I want to say that Clarke's comment about the writstband was not valid. When Finn slept with Clarke, Monty had fried the wristbands. So for whatever reason he didn't take it off before no longer mattered. It was at that time useless, and that's when he slept with Clarke. Before that he hadn't made any romantic advances toward her.

Finn and Raven had grown up together as childhood sweethearts. Their relationship became sexual as they grew older and they both had probably never been with anyone else. But people change as they grow older and experience new things. For the first time, Finn found himself attracted to someone else. We don't know how he would have handled this in ordinary circumstances. But they weren't in ordinary circumstances. Finn was upset because he truly believed that everyone on the Ark was going to die; and he was frightened that the 100 wouldn't survive on their own, especially with the danger presented by the grounders. Clarke offered him comfort and an IMPULSIVE Finn took that comfort. He wasn't thinking about mourning or telling Clarke he had a girlfriend who was going to die. He was highly emotional and he acted without thinking. There was no intention of hurting or disrespecting anyone. That wasn't in Finn's nature. His impulsiveness just got him in trouble. There's no way he could have predicted that Raven could get to earth. So yes, he thought he'd never see her again, which would have made telling Clarke a mute point.

I think Finn didn't take the time to mourn because his greater need was for comfort. Things were scary on the ground and Clarke was the only person making that bareable. But I also think that Finn wasn't IN love with Raven. I don't think he understood that at the time. But as his feelings for Clarke continued to grow, he did realize it. He told Raven that he loved her, but when he told Clarke "I love you", he quickly changed it to "I'm IN love with you." He never stopped loving Raven, but it was a different kind of love.

I think Finn continued to be with Raven because he felt guilty and didn't want to hurt her any more. He had a excessive sense of loyalty. Clarke had blown him off and he didn't know what to do about that. He was trying to figure things out. Remember, he was 18 years old.

What I still don't get is why this unintentional screw up is such an unforgivable crime. After all, Finn didn't force people to take off their wristtbands for food, or promote chaos, or cause the deaths of 320 and put the 100 in greater danger by destroying a much needed radio. There are much more serious offenses than hurting the feelings of a couple of girls. But it's Finn who gets called "the little bitch". I'll never understand people as long as I live.