Talk:Finn Collins/@comment-76.17.103.248-20150704182642/@comment-58.7.170.3-20150715161145

I totally understand what youre saying but id like to add that the despair finn felt after realising that the ark was dying, the anger he felt that people were listening to bellamy, the disabandoment of the only hope he had of feeling safe again, this all adds up to not being able to resist the one person that brought him hope and brought him a reason to keep fighting. Clarke wasnt just a fuck-buddy or a rebound which is apparently perfectly acceptable in todays society she was actually someone he cared for. His feelings had been growing since he met her but mostly in admiration, the first thing you tell a person youre starting to be friends with isnt "hey i might want us to be friends because youre awesome but i have a girlfriend in space that ill probably never see again" they werent at that level where he thought him and Clarke woud ever be anything so it didnt matter if he told her or not because he didnt know she liked him. Its a bit like when a guy comes up and opens the door for you and the girl goes "i have a boyfriend" a tad embarassing and unessescary. Also when him and Clarke did end up doing it he couldnt of possibly thought that he'd ever see Raven again so it was like she was dead, you could say getting with Clarke was a way to ease that pain. This very act was done later on to Finn like a day after Raven ended the relationship she slept with Bellamy the one guy Finn didnt trust when she didnt even know if Finn and Clarke where getting together (she acted out of *impulsion* just like most teenagers)

I feel like him acting on his feelings was circumstantional, you can tell because as soon as Raven landed he didnt continue to pursue Clarke physically or tried to get her back because he couldnt do that to Raven. He wouldve contiuned to deny his feelings if it werent for Raven breaking up with him. He would rather kinda love Raven and her not get hurt than be with Clarke and break her heart not many people worth hating would do that.On the Ark he was Ravens on Earth he changed and became a better match with Clarke and thats what happens in most long distance relationships too, people change to their circumstances, they alter and they slowly stop relying on a person that isnt there as much anymore and turn to someone who is.

All this said people we should remebr that he killed the 18 people at the village and he did that for Clarke, yes he "cheated" on Raven but it was with the love of his life when he thought he'd never get to see Raven again. If you had your boyfriend/girlfriend in space and you just learned that you may never see her /him again and that she/he''ll die soon and then seconds later youre in a safe bunker away from the craziness of pending murders and war with your soul mate telling you that you arent alone and making you feel safe for the first time since landing on Earth would you as a 17 year old boy raging with hormones and the feeling of loneliness and hopelessness not act the way Finn did? The show is amazing at portraying humans as real humans who make mistakes and not creating human-like people with no flaws so i think you can and should try and see from his point of view.