Talk:Finn Collins/@comment-76.17.103.248-20150704182642

Someone recently tweeted that she didn't like Finn but cried when he died. I'm still so puzzled about why people disliked Finn. Most say it started with the so called cheating or not telling Clarke about Raven. This really seemed to resinate with a lot of females. I don't want to start a debate about this again. I just want people to explain it so I will stop scratching my head. I'm not making an argument to convince anybody, but I need to tell you why it didn't upset me so that maybe you can tell me where I'm wrong.

I had a BF all through high school. But we went to different colleges. I met new people and eventually got a new best friend. Eventually, I lost touch with my old high school friend. A BF is not always a BFF. Things change. So lets say that was a boyfriend instead. We plan to keep in touch. ..call, write, see each other on holidays, etc. Then I meet a boy I'm very attracted to. We have classes together, are in the same study  group, hang out between classes, etc. I can tell he likes me too. I'm just getting to know him; so I'm not sure if this is going to lead to a romantic relationship. But I need to test the waters to find out who I am and what I want. If I tell him I have a boyfriend, he might not give me that opportunity. So I give it a little time. If my feeling grow and I decide that I want to get romantically involved, THEN I'll either tell him or just break up with my boyfriend. The point is, I needed time to work out my feelings first.

Now, this is just in ordinary circumstances. Finn was in a much more different situation. He had known Clarke just a few days. He was very attracted to her, but hadn't decided what to do about that yet. There were more pressing things to deal with. Finn knew the 100 needed the others to come down. He was worried that they weren't going to be able to survivie on their own, especially going unarmed against a hostile people who wanted to kill them. So when Monty fried the wristbands, he got upset. So there was Clarke, holding his face with her hands and telling him that he was not alone. In other words, she was saying that she was there for him. So an impulsive Finn takes comfort in that. He acts on his attraction. He's not inhibited by the fact that he has a girlfriend because with no way to contact the dying Ark,  he believes he's never going to see her again. Who could predict she'd make it to earth in an old pod?

Maybe he should have told Clarke, if you say so. But under the circumstances, I can understand it. And that sure doesn't make me hate him. He's 18 and human. So tell me where I'm going wrong?